Recommitting to New York City – and to Happiness

Hi, I’m Lindsay, and I’m a restless commitment-phobe plagued by the ‘grass is greener’ syndrome. Is it any wonder that I have so much trouble figuring out my life?

Travel is how I manage these so-called faults of mine. I function best when I have the freedom to frolic, which is why backpacking solo through Asia for 5 months felt so natural to me. When I returned in July, I tasked myself with figuring out another way to face my demons that would allow me to make enough money to pay my student loans, without sacrificing my happiness. Where would I go? What would I do? With as few ties as I’ve ever had, my options were wide open – so much so that it was overwhelming. I could move out west to California like I’ve always wanted – or to someplace far cheaper than New York where I could save more money. Or maybe it was the right time to do the Work & Holiday Visa and move back to Australia. Or, in a brilliant compromise between saving money and traveling the world, I could work on a cruise ship.

Well, it took me 3 months of pro/conning, researching, and applying, but I HAVE A PLAN! Loosely stated:

I am recommitting to New York

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I realized during my multi-month reverse culture shock that over the last 5 years, I had crafted a pretty excellent life for myself in NYC. I really do love it here. It’s true that the grass will always be greener – but it’s pretty damn green already from where I’m standing.

Someday I will move out west – but once I do, it’ll likely be for good. I want to be sure that I’m ‘done’ with New York before I take that leap.

Living in Australia for a year is still very much on my radar and something I will be working towards over the next couple years, but I’m going to see how things play out with NYC Part 2 before I make any definitive moves with this.

I did actually apply to work on several cruise ships shortly after returning from Asia, but never heard back from any of them. It’s ok, I understand that they would rather take on people who have experience working in hospitality or on cruise lines than ivy league educated entrepreneurs (and absolutely note the dropping sarcasm there!).

So what does NYC Part 2 look like right now?

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New job at a marketing startup

When a month had passed since I’d sent out my applications to the cruise lines, I decided it was time to set Plan B in motion: searching for jobs in NYC. Spreading my metaphorical eggs across multiple baskets, if you will. My strategy was to only apply to jobs that a). seriously interested me, and b). I had the right experience/skills for. I didn’t want to get just any old job so I could go back to safely paying the bills; I wanted to FINALLY have a job that I loved, a job that made me feel fulfilled and excited to work every day.

I devoted the month of September to the job search, ended up interviewing for about half of the jobs I applied for, and accepted an offer in early October. On October 28, I’ll be starting work in sales operations at a marketing startup in Manhattan. This will be my third real job since graduating college – except unlike the others, I’m actually really excited about it. With just 35 employees, I’m hoping there will be less of that dreaded corporate feel at the office.

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Jumping back into wedding photography

I didn’t know if I would continue to pursue wedding photography after I got back. I’d all but abandoned my blog and advertising for most of 2013 and did not want to take on any new work until I knew where I would be, post-Asia.

Call it fate or divine intervention, but apparently wedding photography and I were meant to be. Several photography jobs fell into place once I returned, at the time I needed them most. Potential clients were contacting me again after 5+ months of crickets. But most importantly: I realized how much I’d missed shooting weddings this year. It makes me happy, so you know what? I’m gonna keep doing it. (Related note: Anyone looking for a New York Wedding Photographer?)

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Back to rock climbing and biking

Being physically active is a priority in my life, but equally important to me is doing things because I enjoy them, and not because I feel like I have to. Being a gym rat brings me no joy, and I’m not into organized team sports, so instead I like to pursue more individualized sports. I want to get back to biking to work every day in lieu of the subway commute (Frugal Fact: I saved nearly $1000 the year before my trip to Asia by using the subway as little as possible, walking or biking whenever I could – yes, even in 20-degree winter weather!). And of course, I want to keep biking for fun.

I also want to get back into rock climbing, which I’ve been slowly easing into since returning and will soon jump full force into once I purchase my membership. I was in great climbing shape and felt stronger than ever just before I left; I want to get back to that place and beyond. My goal is to finally learn how to lead climb within the next year and hopefully have the opportunity to do more outdoor climbing.

Though I always aim to keep fit while traveling, one of the things I miss the most when I’m away from home is my fitness non-routine. Being able to bike and climb on a regular basis keeps me feeling happy and accomplished.

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More local adventuring

This time around, I want to make an effort to do all the things in/around New York that I’ve been filing under the ‘someday’ category. In my not-so-humble-but-very-honest opinion, I have done a damn good job of taking advantage of being in NYC for the last 5 years – but I can do even better!

Some things that still remain on my Northeast US bucket list:

  • Trip to Montreal (currently in progress, as this post goes live!)
  • More weekend jaunts to DC and Boston
  • Maine (why haven’t I made an effort to get here yet?)
  • The Hamptons

And on an even more local level, I’d like to make an effort to do more in New York City: trying new restaurants, seeing more comedy shows, attending more (free) events. NYC friends, help hold me accountable and join me in this endeavor!

TRAVEL TRAVEL TRAVEL

Hello Captain Obvious – of COURSE I’ll be taking advantage of my new company’s lack of a vacation policy and taking some trips, as time/money permit. In addition to a few long weekend getaways in the Northeast, I’d like to do some hiking/climbing/roadtripping out west.

Also, my brand new passport is looking rather naked. You better believe I’ll be remedying that with a trip abroad next year!

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I am recommitting to happiness

Happiness is the overarching goal for me. With my re-commitment to NYC and all of the endeavors noted above, I will be more actively pursuing the things that make me happy while more ruthlessly cutting the things that do not. NYC Part 2 looks a whole lot like Part 1, but to be taken to the next level. I’m on the right track, but there will be no settling, no excuses.

Here’s to even greener grass!

 

It’s my 100th post on Frugal Frolicker, yay!!

Lindsay Buckley is the photographer and travel blogger behind Frugal Frolicker. She's a New Yorker currently based in Sydney, Australia, documenting outdoor travel experiences Down Under and beyond. Follow along with Lindsay's travel photography on Facebook and Instagram, and be sure to sign up for the monthly Frugal Frolicker newsletter!

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  • Matty C

    Skip the Hampton’s and enjoy the rest… Great Post!!

  • Shannon Buckley

    Woo, I heart this post!

    • lindsaypunk

      Thanks, Chib! :D

  • lindsaypunk

    Noooooooo I want to see Montauk! Happy to skip the party scene in East/Southampton, though :P

    And thank you! :)

    • Nicki

      Yes to Montauk!

  • Nicki

    I also wonder why I haven’t gotten to Maine yet! I need to make this happen! Also, my friend Emily saw you like a post of mine on Instagram this past weekend, and she was like, you know Lindsay?? She’s so cool! I want to meet her! You’re a celebrity with my travel buddies. :-)

    • lindsaypunk

      That is TOO funny! Even more so because last night, I kid you not, my friend messaged me after I posted a new photo of myself on fb and said it was ironic that YOU had taken it because she had *just* been looking at nyc wedding photos and that she had come across your website and loved your work :) Small world we live in!

    • lindsaypunk

      PS – roadtrip to Maine next year? :P

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